Pretty darn important – if you’re dealing with nerves (and who isn’t?)! That first date location…a lot goes into getting it right. You want someplace that makes your date feel comfortable, a place where you feel comfortable (so you look suave/worldly), and since it’s usually a good idea to have some exit strategy, a firm ending time. It should be closer to your date’s home than yours, if there is some distance involved.
But how about the particulars? Well, that’s where your comfort vs. what is wise must be weighed. Do you prefer a loud restaurant or bar, where you can have a good time? This might be a great option if you like to laugh, loudly, and a lot. A bowling alley or billiard hall? A fun, relaxed atmosphere with a fairly clear ending option – get a couple games in, wrap things up. Or a nice wine bar, where you can tuck away in the corner and have a quiet get-to-know-you chat.
Me, I like comedy clubs. I’m a big laugher, and everybody enjoys a good time. I’ve been told not to do this, because if you’re listening to a comic you’re not talking and getting to know each other. This is a really valid point, but I like to meet an hour or so before the show so we can have a couple drinks, chat, and then enjoy the show – the show is a nice interlude where you can think about the conversation you’ve had, let it sink in a bit, and decide if you’d like to continue your chat afterwards. (Tricky, eh?) It may not be the best plan, but it works for me.
What’s your ideal first date spot? Wine bar? Bowling alley? Comedy club? Dive bar (I had a really good first date at a dive bar in Vegas – never discount the dive bar)? Leave your thoughts in the comments! If we get a consensus going, maybe I’ll set up a group gathering at a first date spot and we can all get a feel for it together!
March 5, 2010 at 12:34 pm |
I’d agree that the first date locale is important, it’s HUGE! The venue, I think, says as much about a person as anything they might actually say about themselves, if that makes sense. With that in mind, it becomes necessary to understand where one should take a lady on a first date. I like taking a first date to a non-chain place. If it’s coffee, an independently owned coffee shop is usually how I like to start, or a unique bar with some ‘personality.’ Where ever you take your date it’s gotta show the following: Imagination, thought, attitude. The venue will reflect well on you, should you choose well.